HELLO WORLD !!
In a previous blog I expressed why I went back to being natural. Given the reasons that my hair was always thin and lacked body and I just couldn't stand it. I wanted fuller, longer and just...MORE HAIR. I've always been indecisive in my hair decision making. I love switching up styles and cutting my hair. In other words, I tend to get bored easily with it. But going natural became much more than eliminating "thin looking hair". Now 6 months later I'm realizing what the process all means to me.
As I am here watching natural hair videos, something crossed my mind. I remember my previous roommate said to my boyfriend, that he likes "bald women", referring to me, because I had just gotten my hair cut. It was still permed but it was tapered. Now his response, in my opinion, was wise. I know he prefers straight long hair but he loved me for who I was as an individual not for how my hair looked. But to me, that statement meant that to her, having hair was everything. When to me, it always meant very little. By that time, it was the third time I'd cut my hair short after letting it grow out on three different occasions. HAIR GROWS BACK. Early on in life I learned to avoid emotional attachment to things that can be lost but replaced. Then realizing the importance of valuing the things that can be lost that I can't ever get back.
So my questions are as followed, why do others associate women who have short hair with ugliness? Why is a beautiful woman defined as having long flowing hair? Why are looser curl patterns so praised and adored? Why is it difficult to embrace who we are? Why is it so difficult to remember we are made with UNIQUENESS? That was the purpose, for no one 'individual' to be the same. So why do we always strive for sameness when the point is to stand out with individualism.
All of these questions are rhetorical because beauty has no real definition. Everyone views it differently. The definition it self says, something that is pleasing to one's own eye sight. This journey has allowed me to learn that loving yourself enough to block out negativity is important. You need to accept you, for the things you can't change and learn to embrace them. (Which for me, would be my thin hair) I've learned that accepting the apology you never received will help you let go of malice & hostility in your heart and mind. Lastly, I'm learning to accept everything God gave me and treasuring it in all it's uniqueness.
THANKS FOR READING, BE BLESSED !!
